It’s a novice move we’ve all been guilty of. Instead of making a clear request we drop subtle hints. We tell ourselves it feels more gentle… even mannerly. Not so. To put it in harsh terms: sacrificing clarity to avoid conflict is a cowardly play that is far easier on the hinter then the hintee.
Take time to distill your message to crystal clarity – and then go ahead and deliver it respectfully and with heart.
If you make them guess what’s on your mind don’t be disappointed when their guess doesn’t match your intended message.
You can’t say it much clearer than that, Susan! I know I’ve done it… thinking, “break it to them gently” or, perhaps, “if I only tell them a half truth…”. It didn’t take long to learn to say what I mean…
Great post.
Darren, I guess we’ve all tried the soft approach at one time or another. Thanks so much for stopping by and leaving a comment. I’ll be on your site later today to see what’s new on Then Life Happens.
Susan.
Hi Susan
Short post, clear message – brilliant.
Hope my comment was clear. LOL
Hi Keith,
Great to hear from you! And yes, your message – as always – is clear and to the point.