One of my most popular posts of all time is a list of Christmas tweets I put together in 2010. Here’s my 2012 update. Some are touching, some are funny. The last one is for my more intellectual friends.
This is en editorial on the horrific events that took place at Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown, Connecticut.
Newtown, Connecticut. This quaint little New England town will forever be remembered as the site of a horrific act. Morgan Freeman speaks on the undeserved celebrity status bestowed on people who commit the most heinous acts and asks us to take a different approach…
“You want to know why. This may sound cynical, but here’s why.
It’s because of the way the media reports it. Flip on the news and watch how we treat the Batman theater shooter and the Oregon mall shooter like celebrities. Dylan Klebold and Eric Harris are household names, but do you know the name of a single *victim* of Columbine?
Disturbed people who would otherwise just off themselves in their basements see the news and want to top it by doing something worse, and going out in a memorable way. Why a grade school? Why children? Because he’ll be remembered as a horrible monster, instead of a sad nobody.
CNN’s article says that if the body count “holds up”, this will rank as the second deadliest shooting behind Virginia Tech, as if statistics somehow make one shooting worse than another. Then they post a video interview of third-graders for all the details of what they saw and heard while the shootings were happening. Fox News has plastered the killer’s face on all their reports for hours.
Any articles or news stories yet that focus on the victims and ignore the killer’s identity? None that I’ve seen yet. Because they don’t sell. So congratulations, sensationalist media, you’ve just lit the fire for someone to top this and knock off a day care center or a maternity ward next.
You can help by forgetting you ever read this man’s name, and remembering the name of at least one victim. You can help by donating to mental health research instead of pointing to gun control as the problem. You can help by turning off the news.”
Preston Waters | Elite.
I’m on vacation for three days. I selected these days – in the middle of the work week – to get back on kilter. Or get my kilter back. Whatever.
My assignment for the next 72 hours is to do only one thing at a time. You might say I’ve orchestrated my own multitasking intervention.
I knew I needed to reevaluate things when I loaded a second task management app on my phone last week. God forbid I should be unable to capture all the to-do items that swirl through my head while waiting for an elevator or idling through a car wash. Like millions of others, I’d become so adept at the fractured work style we call multitasking – I forgot about focus.
Focus. Oh, yeah. I think I remember that guy.
So the real trick is not just to DO one thing at a time — it’s to THINK about only one thing at a time. They say that’s the path to effectiveness and performance. For right now, I just want my kilter back.
EQ, short for emotional quotient, is a term coined by Daniel Goleman indicating a measure of one’s abilities in the areas of self awareness, empathy and dealing sensitively with others. It’s commonly referred to as emotional intelligence.
EQ has become so highly valued by employers that it has eclipsed and made practically obsolete the use of IQ testing. Why is that? Dr. Goleman puts it this way:
“The criteria for success at work are changing. We are being judged by a new yardstick: not just by how smart we are, or by our training and expertise, but also by how we handle ourselves…”
It’s no longer enough to know how to do a good job; how we treat others is just as important. Working in the staffing industry for more than 15 years, I can attest to this change.
The table below contrasts low EQ words and behaviours with those of a more highly developed person.
|Low EQ Words and Behaviours
||High EQ Words and Behaviours
|“I wouldn’t have all these problems if the people around me were smarter.”
||High EQ people know that we all play a role in our problems in one way or another. They seek to identify their contribution first, before pointing the finger at others. They’re quick to make adjustments to improve the situation for everyone.
|“I am who I am. I don’t change for anyone. If you don’t like me the way I am, screw you.”
||People high in EQ shift according to the needs of each situation. They have sufficient self esteem to realize that adjusting their behaviours doesn’t make them a chump. Being flexible is a great way to show up as a sincere partner and contributor.
|Sulking. Giving someone the silent treatment to show displeasure.
||Emotional intelligence helps immensely in getting a point across in a way that doesn’t alienate others. Sulking, pouting or other adolescent behaviour will get you labelled as immature and emotional; neither of which will help your career or your relationships.
|“I tell it like it is. I don’t sugar coat anything.”
||EQ is all about communicating with sensitivity to get better results – but it doesn’t mean we avoid delivering difficult messages. There are ways to help co-workers or directs see blind spots or correct problems without leaving a swath of damage. It all starts by putting the other guy first.
What makes a post go viral? Are there major influencers out there in cyberland? Can anyone predict the next hot topic? I read an article this morning that provided surprising perspective. Read it here.
<geekalert> This post may only appeal to those interested in the psychological and psychographic makeup of social networks. </geekalert>