It’s a novice move we’ve all been guilty of. Instead of making a clear request we drop subtle hints. We tell ourselves it feels more gentle… even mannerly. Not so. To put it in harsh terms: sacrificing clarity to avoid conflict is a cowardly play that is far easier on the hinter then the hintee.
Take time to distill your message to crystal clarity – and then go ahead and deliver it respectfully and with heart.
If you make them guess what’s on your mind don’t be disappointed when their guess doesn’t match your intended message.